There is a loud cultural narrative right now that children “ruin your life,” and that makes me madder than I can say. And I know my English teacher would say the correct word is angry but I think mad is more fitting here.
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I was up with her one-month-old so many times in the night. I hardly got any sleep. He’s on his third outfit. Multiple diapers. I fed him more times than I can remember.
I have cleaned up pee. I have cleaned up projectile spit up that went all over me, his pajamas that yes I had just changed, and our blankets.
I have been up doing exercises for his little gassy belly, walking him around the house, and rocking him. I was putting away dishes and produce in the middle of the night since I was already up. And so many moms do not have the support they need.
Is parenting hard? Yes.
And this is the easy part when they’re older, and you have to do the moral training, when you’re teaching them how to be human. That is the real challenge.
And yet, I wouldn’t trade it for anything.
It is the most beautiful gift and one of the most precious things that we can do with our lives is raising children. The Bible says that they are a gift, a heritage from the Lord.
Psalm 127:3,
“Lo, children are an heritage of the Lord: and the fruit of the womb is his reward.”
Not a burden.
Not a mistake.
Not an interruption.
A reward.
And dare I say not a clump of cells sitting around but a knitted together creation of God with potential and beauty that we can not even know yet, only their Creator knows.
The newborn stage is physically hard. The toddler stage is mentally hard. The older years? Morally and spiritually hard. That’s where the real shaping happens.
For us, the hard has a purpose. They are so sanctifying. And yes… husbands are strong santifying contenders too. They change us. And should.
Parenting changes how we move about in the world, what our motivations are, and how our heart posture is. And it’s the most beautiful, hard yes, but the most beautiful thing.
Motherhood isn’t random suffering. It’s sanctification.
It exposes impatience.
It crushes pride.
It demands selflessness.
It softens our hearts.
It forces us to depend on God when we have nothing left.
Children don’t ruin your life.
They reorient it.
They change your pace.
They change your priorities.
They change your ambitions.
They change your heart posture.
And in that reordering, something eternal is built.
The world values ease, travel, sleep, autonomy, aesthetics, and personal freedom.
But the Kingdom values faithfulness.
Sacrifice.
Legacy.
Souls.
You were up in the night — not just rocking a baby — but forming a heart that will one day love Christ. That’s not small.
It’s beautiful and brutal at the same time.
And it’s okay to say both:
- This is hard.
- I wouldn’t trade it for anything.
That’s mature motherhood.
If you need some Mama Bear spiritual encouragement, check out this carousel that I read recently that brought tears to my eyes. Be sure to scroll through every slide.
Whether you have a supportive, engaged spouse or not… whether you have a village helping you or you’re doing this mostly alone… we have the King of Kings and Lord of Lords on our side. And that changes everything.
We were never meant to reset our homes in our own strength.
If you are feeling stretched thin, behind, overstimulated, or just tired of the chaos creeping back in, the 7 Day Peaceful Home Reset was created for you. It’s a simple, grace-filled audio experience designed specifically for busy Christian moms who want more peace — not perfection.
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You don’t need more pressure.
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